HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!
Well, it has been quite a chaotic for me this week. I had two birthdays to celebrate. My middle son turned 11 and my youngest son turned 2. A good time was had by most, but my 11 was a bit down his father; who lives in Houston; promised that he would be there and of course the day of the party came and went without so much as a phone call. So, there I am consoling my poor son, telling him everything will be ok and that something must have happened that he was not able to be there.
That is the role I have played for most of my sons young life, when his dad has let him down for one reason or another. I don’t believe in bad mouthing or slandering the absent parent so when his dad doesn’t live up to his end of the agreement, I often find myself making excuses for him so that my son doesn’t feel rejected or unwanted. This has been an ongoing thing since we divorced and it breaks my heart so know that the man I married could care so little for his child’s feelings. It tears me up.
I really don’t get it, a lot of my other friends that are single parents say “well you should just be happy that he does come around, no matter how little.” To me that is just not acceptable, I could see if we hadn’t of been married but there just isn’t an excuse for it. He rarely visits, doesn’t keep up on his support payments and makes every excuse in the world as to why he should of, would of, or could’ve but just can’t. I guess it’s time for him to stop with the excuses, and time for me to stop excusing them.
As I write this, I have an epiphany… Thank you.
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